21M here, first time posting in the hopes for some insights from the community about my current experience with this girl. Let's call her, "Sam" (21F). To give some context, we attend the same university and have frequently seen each other around campus but nothing too much where we both would have a conversation, just glances at each other. Around July of last year, we had an organic meeting in a mall, where we both finally exchanged names and eventually followed each other's socials. We didn' talk much, since it was a busy semester and had a lot of projects to do.
It remained like that for us, until about a month ago, where we had our first fully-fledged conversation. Our interests, anecdotes about school and our lives and generally anything that we could think of that was interesting to talk about. This is all to say, we hit it off pretty and well, her humor matched mine and it was clear to us that the "curiousness" I mentioned, was due to be satisfied. It was obvious that she took some sort of interest in me, she was the first one to ask me if I had gotten home, was thankful for listening to her stories and overall just happy to finally know each other.
Then a week later, I had texted Sam if she was around campus, and she cut me off by immediately saying "Why, did you want to hang out?" (which was the reason I asked). We agreed on a day, and when the day came, our first date finally happened. It was great, we had lunch together, had good conversation, even bought each other something to remember each other by and I enthusiastically paid for the entire date. Sam even asked me out for a movie that was coming out months prior, and we both loved the idea of it, so I agreed. Went on the ride home together again, and thanked each other via chat for the great day we just spent together.
The next few conversations we had after our first date, was electric. Our energies matched, chemistry was great, banter and jokes were flying out like crazy. It went on like that for the next few weeks until I asked her out again on an afternoon, spontaneously if I may say so. Sam politely declined since she had something important to do and stated she'd be free the next time I would ask. I took it as a good sign and looked forward with optimism for the next time I would ask her. Keep in mind that every conversation we had was very lively and in good spirits, with little to no signs of indifference or neglect.
Fast forward, I asked for 2nd time and then Sam once again declined because she had plans with her friends (which she had told me prior... fair enough) and also the weather was so bad during this time, that going out would be risky. I gracefully asked for a reschedule, which she did. Then the waiting began again. Fast forward another week, days before the date she said she would be available, she declined again. This time, Sam said that she suffered an injury (won't go to any details here), but she would be unable to come. She rescheduled again, and we agreed on it, I even offered to check up on her once in a while as she's recovering and want to make sure she's safe to go with me.
Now, for my dilemma. It has been about a week now since that conversation happened, and after that convo I texted to check up on her a couple of times, see how she was doing and know if she's recovered and whatnot. Strangely enough, she wasn't replying, not even seeing my messages... just leaving them on delivered. The last time text I texted her was on the supposed day of our date. I asked what had happened to her and I noticed that she was becoming less active online. (Keep in mind that this injury of hers was not that sever, that it would prevent her from replying or at least even seeing my messages).
I was so caught off-guard with her "ghosting" me all of a sudden. Now before I even felt ghosted, I tried to rationalize it in my head. Maybe her condition got worse, maybe I had said something that turned her off, maybe her mom caught her talking with me and stole her phone, wild stuff like that lol. But now, it looks deliberate to me. Why? She's active on instagram for that entire week, and not even so much as a reply to me. And here I am just lost, looking for an answer as to why she just disappeared on me like that.
I can take rejection, but why ghost me to this extent? She could at least tell me that she doesn't want to see me anymore, I'd take that than her disappearing on me.
Any advice on how I could handle this? Is this her way of rejecting me or did something really happen to her to prevent her from responding?
TL;DR: The girl I like kept rescheduling our second date and suddenly disappeared on me just after our first date. Now I'm left wondering why.
